It's a passion, not a fantasy
We've all at least tried
You are a lucky lucky lucky chap. Vast majority in here, including me, are insanely jealous of what you manage to achieve so seeing you complain about your lot on a board you know fine well is full of shit is what makes no sense to me as you can immediately call out any time wasters. If you allow any of them to waste your time, you are doing it to yourself.
The rest of us are left having to try and judge if a miniscule element here are genuine and try engaging with the genuine folk if you don't have a partner and you are met with minimal if any response. RandJ do at least respond to messages and I am grateful for that
What is frustrating is the posers that who are infesting fetlife too so I can sympathise on that score
Hope you find more genuine folk somewhere soon