[KateA - The Devil In Heels]

Heh Girls,

Time for some more girl chat and this subject is a personal favourite of mine - Catfights on principle. What I mean by this is catfights you feel obliged to have, even if you don’t want to. So let me give you perhaps the classic example:

“A friend of yours has been cheating with your boyfriend / husband and you’re the last person it seems to know about the affair. You’ve been humiliated and whispered about for weeks.”

Ok, so your friend has with thought of malice stolen your man. Do you let this slight stand or do you grab the slut by her hair and kick her skank ass. My answer would be yes!

But what if your friend in question is taller than you, stronger and deep down in your heart you know she would kick your ass? Now what? Do you back down or do you fight her anyway? Even if you know you will lose. Once again I would say yes, I would rather fight and lose than walk away and show the rest of my friends / work colleagues that when push comes to shove, you can walk all over me.

Now this isn’t the only example, another would be regarding our children. Imagine another mum smacking your 6 year old daughter publicly by the school gates in front of you. Personally this is for me the most powerful example of a catfight on principle, no matter who this mum is - the bitch hit your child! This cannot go unanswered can it?

So what do we think girls? Is catfights on principle a thing? Or perhaps my sense of honour is leading me astray? Also has anyone ever found themselves in a catfight, simply because you just felt obliged to fight - even if you didn’t really want to?

Xoxo
Kate

[sinclairfan]

It's a thing.

<> If you're captain of a sports team, and the other team's captain bullies a teammate of yours, you need to step up.  The other captain needs to go thru you first.

<> If you attend a religious school, and a public school girl crosses certain lines, she needs to be corrected.

<> If your kid sister is being bullied, you need to have her back.

<> If you have a friend's back in a fight and she's clearly giving up, you need to separate them.

<> If an ex doesn't get it that she's the ex, you and she need to chat in private.

[snw]

I think you have to. Win or lose is important but it’s not the most important. Even if you lose others will stop and think before they do you wrong. Knowing there will be consequences for wronging you will be a deterrent to others. A lot of people do things they wouldn’t do with others is simply because they have no worry of repercussions.

[sinclairfan]

This scenario is more about generic competition rather than outright catfighting, but:

....especially on the 1970s and 1980s, if a neighborhood pickup basketball game or touch football game started up, and it turned coed by an athletic girl on the other team joining the action....if you were an athletic girl yourself, it was on you to get off your ass, join the game, and guard the other athletic girl.

And you better not let her score.

[Alix_Fights]

Ok, not really a direct principle to defend, but if you want to sleep with one of your best friend's ex, you should really at least tell her first.  She might be Ok with it, or she may still have some feelings for him.  Best to be sure.

[InesPara]

<> If you attend a religious school, and a public school girl crosses certain lines, she needs to be corrected.

I've been through this. Religious woman are tough, but only when they are in their huddles. They squirm into apologies when you take them on privately

[sinclairfan]

<> If you attend a religious school, and a public school girl crosses certain lines, she needs to be corrected.

I've been through this. Religious woman are tough, but only when they are in their huddles. They squirm into apologies when you take them on privately

That cuts both ways, tho.  If the religious school girl corners the public school girl (say, at a party or at the mall), and asks her why she's talking trash about religion, the public school girl will usually crumble and admit she was just going along with her friends.

Another On-Principle scenario which I stumbled across yesterday:  what if a woman life-coach finds out her male client is being hassled by a similarly-aged woman over, say, money or a legal dispute, etc.  Is the life-coach obligated to physically confront the bossy woman, female to female?