[Zaire]

 Maybe one of you amateur psychologists can advise me. I am a Black man that gets totally turned on by seeing a white woman beat and humiliate a black woman!!! My wife and I have been married for nine years and our sex life is fantastic.. The first year the white wife of our neighbor completely beat my wife up. She then spanked my wife's 44 inch ass until my wife was crying and begging for mercy. I was rock hard and   for these nine years all I have to do is recall the beating my wife took and we have the best sex ever. I am certainly a proud Black man, but why does this incident turn me on so much?

[LQQKING4CATFIGHTER]

   Lots of white guys like to see Black fighters dominate White girls, so your not alone in that type of fetish.

[lumberjack66]

I am no shrink, but have chatted with a lot of people in your same boat.  We all have our things and just because your thing is not everybodies thing does not make it any better or worse.  I think the racial thing is about contrasts and also a natural tension that exists in the world.  It is kind of one more thing that separates the fighters and adds to the excitement.  There are a lot of guys that like seeing their wives loose.  I have heard a lot of theories on that one, but I think the one I prefer is the "Damsel in Distress".  It is really a combination of several fetishes.  You have a thing for your wife, you have a thing for catfights, and you have a thing for the Damsel in Distress.  There may be others there as well (maybe you have a thing for white women, dominant women, spanking, etc.)  Roll all of them together and you have something that blows your mind.  I don't think it is an indication that that you don't love your wife or anything like that.  It is just that situation pressed all your buttons.  And I am betting it is just one of many things that press your buttons.

[daz]

I was so tempted just to reply "Not"
Did you get into your fetish before, during or after?
I ask because of the best sex reference.   I was never lucky enough to see my wife in a match but a mutual co-worker once asked my wife to wrestle for my entertainment.   I have made references to this before.    My wife was so humilated and also the single most turned on I have ever seen her.   That night she was amazing.   So hey I have a pretty darn good idea where my fetish came from.
So yeah Why Not.   Its a fetish,  Great Sex.  Great fantasy.  Dont over thik it, just enjoy.

[jessiefite]

Amateur psychologist here.  Fetishism in general is the replacement of or substitution for traditional sexual objectives with an alternative object or action, not traditional in nature.
You either choose, or are genetically or socially programmed, to sexualize a non-traditional source of stimulation.

I would argue that violence is a traditional sexual stimulation source.  For a million years, sex often followed the triumph of one tribe over that of another in bloody warfare.

So, your wife is an extension of, and an integral part of ... YOU.  When she loses, YOU lose, in a way.  A piece of YOU wants permission to be submissive, but your manliness
would be threatened if it was actually YOU losing.  So YOU substitute your wife in via your fetish and have her submit for YOU.  In that way, YOU can vicariously be a part of the
"sexy" submission without having lost your manhood. 

Interestingly, this is also why there are still New York Jets fans.  They suffer incomparable vicarious humiliation every week.  Only I don't think they are getting off on it.

[KatFiteFan]

Maybe one of you amateur psychologists can advise me. I am a Black man that gets totally turned on by seeing a white woman beat and humiliate a black woman!!! My wife and I have been married for nine years and our sex life is fantastic.. The first year the white wife of our neighbor completely beat my wife up. She then spanked my wife's 44 inch ass until my wife was crying and begging for mercy. I was rock hard and   for these nine years all I have to do is recall the beating my wife took and we have the best sex ever. I am certainly a proud Black man, but why does this incident turn me on so much?

Would love to hear more about this fight.  Were there others watching?  What caused tensions to rise to the point of a fight? Has your wife spoken about the fight since it happened?

[AaronL]

Amateur psychologist here.  Fetishism in general is the replacement of or substitution for traditional sexual objectives with an alternative object or action, not traditional in nature.
You either choose, or are genetically or socially programmed, to sexualize a non-traditional source of stimulation.

I would argue that violence is a traditional sexual stimulation source.  For a million years, sex often followed the triumph of one tribe over that of another in bloody warfare.

So, your wife is an extension of, and an integral part of ... YOU.  When she loses, YOU lose, in a way.  A piece of YOU wants permission to be submissive, but your manliness
would be threatened if it was actually YOU losing.  So YOU substitute your wife in via your fetish and have her submit for YOU.  In that way, YOU can vicariously be a part of the
"sexy" submission without having lost your manhood. 

Interestingly, this is also why there are still New York Jets fans.  They suffer incomparable vicarious humiliation every week.  Only I don't think they are getting off on it.

It's really not fair that you're that hot and that smart.

[AaronL]

I am no shrink, but have chatted with a lot of people in your same boat.  We all have our things and just because your thing is not everybodies thing does not make it any better or worse.  I think the racial thing is about contrasts and also a natural tension that exists in the world.  It is kind of one more thing that separates the fighters and adds to the excitement.  There are a lot of guys that like seeing their wives loose.  I have heard a lot of theories on that one, but I think the one I prefer is the "Damsel in Distress".  It is really a combination of several fetishes.  You have a thing for your wife, you have a thing for catfights, and you have a thing for the Damsel in Distress.  There may be others there as well (maybe you have a thing for white women, dominant women, spanking, etc.)  Roll all of them together and you have something that blows your mind.  I don't think it is an indication that that you don't love your wife or anything like that.  It is just that situation pressed all your buttons.  And I am betting it is just one of many things that press your buttons.

The contrasts are a big thing for a lot of us. I've had a preference for sexual contests between milfs and college girls for years, with the milfs winning more often than not. I don't know why it's there. There wasn't an overly attractive mom anywhere in my social circles growing up. I never had a problem with most girls in college. But, put those two together and I want them to either titfight or sexfight and I want the milfs to win slightly more often.

I've also got a thing for Asian-American women with big tits, but have zero interest in actual Asian women. Don't have a clue why, but it's probably the contrast of the look that's exotic along with the culture that's familiar.

The OP here has something for white women that probably wiggled it's way into his brain at some point, likely unnoticed, and circumstances led to it manifesting in a way that he didn't understand even as he enjoyed it.

We're all a little fucked in the head, and that's okay.

[Horny-Jew]

Don't worry about it. I've got a thing for Arab, Muslim, Pakistani, Lebanese, etc,. women...