Perhaps Kiva we could have a discussion about the small things?
For me my favourite kind of catfights are those where a very small; some would say insignificant incident escalates into an out of control catfight or rivalry. For example I can give you this gem from history; a duel was fought over the arrangement of flowers:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3460930/Nobles-gone-wild-moment-Princess-Countess-took-topless-sword-fight-settle-dispute-flowers-1892-detailed-fascinating-video-duels.html
Now a duel is not a catfight; but the psychology that drove these women to risk their lives in duel over nothing of any importance. Is the same psychology that could drive two other average women to catfight.
Looking back at my own personal experiences in boarding school; two friends of mine got into a catfight over a pencil case of all things. From that point on they engaged in tit for tat retaliation against each other and catfights between those two were regular. The last instance I recall ended in a catfight in a classroom and the cutting of hair. And I must stress there was no feud between them until the pencil case incident and even into adulthood I’m told their feud is very much alive; however I have not witnessed it myself.
Another example would be my own experience at university; allegedly I looked at a housemate funny. She went for me and I fought back. From that point on me and Rachel spent my first year at university fighting on a regular basis…and all this occurred just because of a glance. Also hand on heart as far as I’m concerned there was no bad blood or cattiness between us until this incident. If me and Rachel met today; would we fight? Quite possibly we would; what I am certain of is we would have nothing nice to say to each other.
I suppose to summarise I would say this; we’re human and humanity is capable of and frequently does engage in all kinds of ridiculous endeavours / incidents.
Anyway I would love to hear people’s thoughts?
Xoxo
Kate
Thanks Kate. Interesting article. Being a medical person, I especially liked the female doctor advising the women to duel topless to reduce the risk of infection. Smart lady
Yes, I’ve seen relationships go sour because of dumb stuff that escalates. A few off the top of my head:
Weddings can be very tense. Anything from floral arrangements like the dualists to a single wrinkle on a bridesmaid gown, seating arrangements at the reception, and a thousand other things can trigger bad feelings.
https://www.freecatfights.com/forums/index.php?topic=111192.msg730143#msg730143I create the work schedule for my unit. God forbid if one person gets one less hour of work over a six month period. I’ll get accused of favoritism.
I helped organize a charity golf tournament involving men and women. Deciding who should be in a foursome together while keeping everyone happy was harder than solving theoretical physics equations about the gravitational pull of black holes.
Parents at kids sports events, music or dance recitals. Why is Joey playing third base and not my Bobby? Why is Bethany getting the lead position?
Some people are so insecure that they rethink and reinterpret any little thing someone said. I have a close friend who drives me nuts with her constant “What did she mean by that?” Exhausting!