Trash talking has an important strategical value. Anytime you can get in your opponent's head, you have a better chance of controlling the action, and thus taking over the game. My coach called it, "Encouraging her to make mistakes." Of course this was when I played competitive basketball. But I think it would be effective in wrestling, too. A combination of the first two posts is probably what I would do. I see no reason to antagonize her. There is a difference in trying to get in her head and just being insulting.