Don't go in with expectations. You'll push the idea too much. It helped me to "play it cool" as the saying goes. Like I mentioned, I used something as a segway into the topic of playful wrestling. You might want to start there. Whether it's the UFC on the bar TV in my case or discussing a show/movie you recently watched with a catfight scene in it. Be subtle and be tactful about it. One time I just got an arm wrestling match out of it, but hey you take what you can get. After telling my wife about everything I have yet to get anything going except for the occasional comments, so best of luck to you!