If your asking arranged rule style it’s a motel, hotel , or someone hosts, if you mean a real street style you rarely get a choice, in the event you get a choice your best to agree out of sight of general public so you don’t end up in lock up or before a judge , put the fetish aside and think common sense a fight on the street is assault and unless you prove one was attacked and defending her/himself both parties are getting new bracelets .