Dear TABSK: I'm Eliza, a 48 year old MILF whose husband has been working at home for 14 weeks (and counting) due to the pandemic. We're grateful that his job can be done from home, and for our financial circumstances in general. Additionally, I'm grateful that I can now overhear who he interacts with on the job, and which female clients and coworkers are a threat to me. There's one woman in particular, a client, that he's required to be cordial with, who I've had a bad gut feeling about for at least a year now. My gut is right 99% of the time, and it was with her when, earlier in the week, she asked my husband if she could Zoom with him on Father's Day to send him bedt wishes for the day. He sternly told her that such a call would be clearly inappropriate and unprofessional, and she sheepishly backtracked ("I was only joking...", blah blah). My question isn't whether to put this homewrecker-wannabe on my permanent "Watch List". It's whether I'm now obligated to give her a 1on1 visit at my next opportunity. Is it already "on" between her and me? Or do I give her an "out" to back off with her tail between her legs? I don't want to give oxygen to a dying ember. The bitch's name is Fallon, and she's six years younger than me, and she lives a half-day driving distance away. Eliza
Dear Eliza--Well, Fallon already made one choice for you, didn't she? It certainly is "on" between you and her. For Fallon to invoke Father's Day is doubly galling since she knows what she's doing causes collateral damage to the child/ren you and your husband have. You've done your driving distance homework--impressive. Sometimes we need to coax readers to take this important pre-requisite step. Half-day drive--Which means: HE's a half-day drive from HER. You know what being cooped up for months on end is doing to all our inhibitions. Our advice? Make a face-to-face intro. "Hello, Fallon. I'm Eliza. I thought we should chat. Girl talk." Good luck. TABSK
